We are on the search for happiness. We want to be happier. Positive Psychology can help.
Three "happy" lives
Pleasant Life (pleasure you can feel, raw feelings and thoughts) - having as many pleasures as possible. 3 drawbacks: positive emotion is 50% heritable and not modifiable. 15/20% tricks of getting more of it. Positive emotion also habituates.
Life of Engagement (time stops for you): aka- The Good Life/ flow. Pleasure vs. Flow. Identifying Signature Strengths. Recraft them to work, love and play.
Strengths
Optimistic
Empathetic
Adaptable
Genuine
Imaginative
Are there things that lastingly change those lives?
Yes. Interventions have an effect.
Assignments/ Positive Interventions
****Design yourself a beautiful day : take mindfulness skills and savoriness skills. design yourself a beautiful and savoring in mindfulness . pleasant life is enhanced
****Gratitude visit. close your eyes and remember someone who did something enormously good for you. write a 300 testimonial, call them ask you can visit then show them. everyone weeps.
****State strengths. couples identify highest strengths. find an evening where they both use strengths
****Philanthropy. do something altruistic and something fun.
As the function of the 3 different lives, how much life satisfaction to you get?
pursuit of meaning, strongest
pursuit of pleasure. almost no contribution. if you have meaning
pursuit of engagement (flow). strong
pleasure matters when you have engagement and meaning. this is the whip cream and cherry on the top
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